If you have been watching the Bachelorette like all us other crazy people then you know that tonight is the night that she decides which bachelor she will spend her life with or at the very least the next six months.

It's come down to two luck fellas; Ben and JP. Both are handsome in their own way and both seem to have fallen for our latest bachelorette Ashley but which will she chose. Having watched the whole season I decided to come up with the top three reasons she should chose each.

Let's start with JP who is a 34 year old construction worker from New York. He seems to have been hurt before but which bachelor this season hadn't and he might be a little gun shy about truly committing even though he has sounded a little possessive of Ashley over the last few weeks. Here are my reasons that Ashley could possibly make a life with JP:

1. He is a really good listener: When everything happened with Bentley JP was the only guy that really sat and listened to her explanation without getting extremely upset. This could prove to be a great quality in the future.
2. He has given some great kisses this season: Chemistry is important in just about any relationship and if that is the case then these two have it is spades. Let's not forget the overnights where Ashley came out wearing just a shirt for bed.
3. He is a manly man: Think about it; a construction worker? That just screams someone that will take charge and make sure his woman is taken care of. That could be both good and bad but either way would probably be fun.

Then there is Ben; a 28 year old, winemaker from California. Ben has been changed and from the sounds of it challenged by the loss of his father and admittedly wasn't as open to falling in love just a little while ago. Still he seems to have gotten over his fears and really opened up to the processes. Here's my thoughts on why Ben could be good for Ashley:

1. He is sensitive I know a lot of people think that a man crying is a sign of weakness but I feel the opposite. After all the years of being told not to do it the fact that they can says that they are strong enough to take the criticism. No one likes a cry baby (Jason M.) but a few tears here and there aren't so bad and Ben has shown that he can get emotional with the best.
2. He makes her laugh: If the way to a man's heart is through his stomach than the way to a woman's heart it through her funnybone. Sure we love the sexy, brooding bad boy but that isn't the guy we settle down with. In the end we all want someone that can make us laugh even when we feel like crying and he has done that for Ashley.
3. He also has a serious side: Sure laughter is great but you don't want a clown. Yet finding some one that has a good balance of both is a hard task but Ashley seems to have found it. Ben hasn't been shy about his feels or sharing his past with her and that is a good thing.

Overall, my opinion is that she should chose Ben over JP. I think JP is a little older for her and at a different point in his life than she is. However, Ben while looking for a serious relationship and ready to propose I think still wants to have some fun.

Having said all that I wouldn't be surprised if she chooses JP considering that the only person that has ever chosen who I thought they should was Jason M. and that was Melissa. To say my enjoyment was short lived wouldn't be an understatement considering that he dumped her not five seconds later on national television.

Sure all the others have also gone boom in epic fashions and some not so epic, except Ali and Roberto and I'm really pulling for them, so I don't really hold out a lot of hope for either guy. Having said that I do also think JP would make an interesting bachelor to watch come next season so maybe I have some selfish reasons for waiting Ashley to pick Ben.

Either way in less than twenty-four hours we will know which it is going to be and how the other will take it (I've heard there will be anger). Be sure to tune in and as always leave those opinions for me.

Ps. Added bonus for Ben is that they are starting to look alike and according to my aunt that makes for a good marriage. I don't get it but do with that what you will :).

Yes, after two weeks of leading previews and Ashley's "Bentley whine" he finally made an appearance. Bentley returned; let the drinking games begin.

We started in another country this week. Either sick of the rain in Thailand or just ready to move on we found ourselves in Hong Kong. A beautiful city that actually did make me want to rush out and buy a ticket to join them. But even with the beauty of the city we start with drama. Chris showed up bright and early to let Ashley know that Bentley was in the building. After talking about how fast her heart was beating and the craziness of him being there Ashley left her room for his to get the "closer" that she needed.

Bentley as slick as ever welcomed her with a kiss as if he hadn't once said it was boring kissing her and lead her into his room. They talked as Ashley told him how much she had missed him and asked why he didn't just end things when he left without leaving a dot, dot, dot for her to wonder about. He tried to make it sound as if he only really said that because he didn't know the future. He then proceeded to tell her that they should just make this a period to their relationship to which she asked why he didn't just call if that was all he had to say. She also grew a little back bone and asked if he only came there for the free trip for which he had no answer. Leaving she told the cameras how she was through wasting her time thinking about him and that she was ready to move on. Adding something that needed to be censured as an aside if he was watching. Enter the drinking game.

Yes Bentley was gone and yes she said she was over him and done thinking about him but I still played by Bentley drinking game for each time she said his name and while I wasn't as drunk as I could have been I was still quite buzzed by the end of the two hours.

Starting off the real dates was Lucas's one-on-one. I would love to give you all the details but truthfully I was as bored as Ashley looked. I can tell you that she did mention Bentley about three more times while talking about the date but for the most part it was dull. I do remember their dinner and thinking why is she giving him a rose and also remember there was no kiss for our fair Lucas because again I really think she was bored.

Then there was the group date which might be my favorite group date so far. They had to go out and find people to row with them in a competition that I don't remember the name of cause I was so busy laughing as they tried to ask people to help. To say things were lost in translation was an understatement. Three teams and they all had different approaches but all were hilarious. In the end Ames and Blake won but was well worth it. After the competition they had the group cocktail party that lead into more Ryan P. bashing and annoyance as she gave him the rose for the date. It was almost as funny as the first part of the date had been.

Lastly we come to the date of the week. JP received his second one-on-one, the only one to do that so far, and it really made me like him. See in this date Ashley decided to tell him about Bentley coming to Hong Kong and everything that she had been thinking and going through. Unlike some men that would have jumped in and asked questions or gotten upset (more on that later) he sat there and let her finish before he said anything. He really listened and in the end supported her decision to get the closer that she needed. Welcome to an adult relationship, if there weren't 7 other guys.

Now I really want to talk about the rose ceremony this week because after talking to JP and his understanding the situation Ashley decided to share with all the other guys and lets just say that the rest were not as open or understanding. They balked and showed their anger and Mickey went so far as to take himself out of the running and opted to go home. Okay look I understand that you might be upset that she was drowning on and on about someone else while you were getting to know her but come on. It wasn't like she cheated on you. Each guy knew going in that there was a chance that Ashley could fall for someone else so don't get mad because she was honest with you about it happening and being open to moving on. That is just silly. End of rant and on to my favorite part.

The kiss of the night goes to Ames this week. It wasn't during the rose ceremony but during the group date cocktail party. Here he took her for a ride in the elevator and while there decided to just pull her in and plant a nice long kiss on her. Lips off to you for making it so good that both of you forgot what you were talking about and where you were going. Can I get one of those elevator rides?

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The gloves have come off or gone on as the situation maybe and these guys are ready to fight for Ashley's love. Too bad some just aren't as prepared as the others. This week while we are still in Thailand the dates went a little smoother. Sorry that was a lie. The dates this week were an absolute train wreak leaving blood, despair and broken hearts all along the way.

We start simple enough. A nice one-on-one date with Ben F. who really impressed Ashley during the group date last week and who I have to say is a little cutey in an almost geekish way. I liked their date even if it wasn't all waterfalls and pop star serenades. The walk through the streets and took in the local culture almost breaking the rules of no public kissing in front of a sacred temple. Sure they did end the date with a candle troupe dance or something like that but still it was a nice date that made me like Ben F. just a little bit more. Added bonus was that the mentioning of Bentley was almost nonexistent but everything went down hill from there.

Now maybe it's just me but I don't think I would ever think it would be a good idea to take a group of men competing for a woman's affections and attentions on a date where they can literally beat the crap out of each other. But that is exactly what Ashley did. I don't know if it was her idea or the producers but who ever came up with it needs to see someone soon. I'm surprised they didn't play the "Let's get ready to rumble" song as the men were walking out in their little boxing outfits; wait I think I'm getting ahead of myself.

On the group date Ashley took the guys to learn Muay Thai which is a cross between boxing and kickboxing and almost street fighting. They learn the basics in what looked like a fifteen minute class and then they were given little boxing outfits, paraded out to the local street ring (yes they fight in the street) and paired up against each other. Can you say crazy? I'm not a big fan of boxing in general but at least those men have years of training under their belts. These poor guys were just going at each other in hopes of impressing Ashley or at the very least standing out and that was exactly what Ames did but not for the reason that he wanted.

Unlike some of the other guys sweet Ames admitted that he had never been in a fight or thrown a punch or had any physical altercations. Why then get in this ring? To impress Ashley and get her attention and that is what he did. He had her attention when he almost got knocked out. He had her attention when he was sitting on the sidelines looking dazed and confused and not in the I just got high way. He had her attention when she had to go get a ambulance to take him to the hospital and he had her attention during the group date when he showed back up with a concussion. Way to go Ames.

As if that wasn't enough then we had the dreaded two-on-one date where two go out but only one comes back. This time it was William and Ben C. on the chopping block. The went to ride elephants and hang out by the river. William who had been mostly quiet since is bomb and the bacherlorette roast was back in the game. He pulled Ashley aside and proceeded to tell her how Ben was ready to go home as he had been saying things about what he would do when he got home and the dating websites that he would be on. With this information Ashley promptly sent Ben packing in one of the quickest and almost heartless cuts of the season.

After Ben left William was all about the date thinking that he had won somehow. Yet Ashley still wasn't sure. She went through the rest of the date but in the end didn't feel like she and William would ever get back to the fun and chemistry that they had on their first date in Vegas so with a rose still on the table she also sent William packing too. This made me laugh until he started talking in the limo and I quickly became concerned for his safety as he sounded suicidal. I guess it's a good thing that the didn't get married on that first date.

Back to another rose ceremony. This week instead of telling you that she sent another guy home after all the drama I decided to start a new thing; kiss of the week. Yes, there was one kiss that did come in the middle of the rose ceremony cocktail party that to me was head and shoulders above the rest. Lips off to you JP for pulling Ashley aside during another rain storm no less and giving her a great kiss under your umbrella-ella-ella. We should all get so lucky.

Bentley didn't show up but Ashley still mentioned him and even went so far as to tell Chris Harrison that she needed closer. Again my previews showed him coming back so I guess we will just have to wait and see.

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As with the new format of the Bachelor/Bachelorette series, we started our around the world journey to find love with Ashley and her remaining 12 guys. First stop Thailand.

Having never been there myself I have to say that they didn't really make me want to jump up and buy a ticket either. Sure it was beautiful but on Ashley's first one-on-one date it rain the whole day.

Not that it would have mattered because all Ashley thought about was Bentley and why did he have to leave. I almost felt bad for Constantine and he worked to make their rained out date work and for the most part I thought that he did a good job but if you were watching really close you could see that Ashley wasn't completely in it. Which is some ways is to be expected. After all how many of us are really into our first date back after a break up? Even with the unsure chemistry he still managed to get a rose and stay safe through next week.

Next up was the required "we give back" date. This season Ashley and the bachelors got together and helped clean and decorate an orphanage for children that were left parent-less after the Tsunami. It was great to see them giving of their time as always and you could almost forget that they were there competing for a girl; I said almost. Let the Ryan bashing begin.

The whole time every man on the date seemed to talk about how annoying Ryan P. was. How he acted when Ashley wasn't around, how he was always "on" for the cameras, and how he was really getting on everyone's nerves. Now personally he kinda got on my nerves in the fact that I'm not sure if I saw him lift a hand to actually do any work while there but maybe the cameras just missed it. I did see him giving orders and taking as if he was the foreman of the job and not just as involved as the other men. To me that was a bit much but as I said maybe the cameras just missed it.

Finally there was my favorite date of the week; Ames. Let me tell you I have not found him at all attractive or interesting the whole time that he has been on the show. I thought he seemed stuffy and a little condescending. That was until they ended up in the middle of rock formation laying on the beach and having dinner. So far I think he had the most intelligent and insightful answers to any questions asked during the show. His answers made sense and he seemed to understand that this wasn't a love at first sight event or even that it wouldn't take work after the cameras stopped. After the date even Ashley admitted that she was seeing him in a whole other light.

As if the week wasn't long enough, I didn't even begin to mention the countless other times she mentioned Bentley, then we had to go into another rose ceremony. Again Chris Harrison was there to sit Ashley down and talk to her before she made her picks. Although this was something that he use to do regularly it seemed that in the last few seasons these heart to hearts have been few and far between. Yet with Ashley this was the second one of the season and we are only at week 4. Chris might need to get a bonus for this season if things continue on this path.

Ashley did surprise me in the end and asked for an additional rose for the night so that instead of sending the normal two men home she was only sending one. I don't know if that makes the poor guy that got sent home feel better or worse that she kept everyone but him but I thought it was interesting.

The show ended with a preview that suggested Bentley makes a return next week but here's hoping that they are just pulling our chain. I'm not sure I could take much more of the Bentley drama.

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Another week; another round of the Bachelorette. Yes my dears Ashley continued her search for love and marriage last night with a flash mob, a roast, and a half-hearted goodbye. Whoever said romance was dead clear was a fan of the Bachelorette.

First off lets start as Ashley did with a flash mob surprise date in the park. Can I just say the thing that surprises me is how much Ashley has danced in the last two episodes. You would think that she was a professional dancer and not a dentist by the moves she has been throwing. When Tenley was on the Bachelorette she could shut up about her dancing and even treated Jake to a special personal dance on his hometown date. Yet with Ashley she never once that I can remember mentioned dancing to Brad. Now three months later she is all Cirque du Soleil; I personally don't get it but I digress.

Anyway, after surprising Ben with the flash mob they went on to have yet another musical live performance. I thought they would be done after last week with not just Cobie Caillat but the Jabbawockeez's but I guess not. And they were such a talented group that I already forgot their names :D.

On to dinner for our lovebirds where Ben started talking about the kind of love that he wanted in his life. At one point I think he actually used the line "love in a bubble"; What the heck? I am all for hopeless romantics and mad passionate love but really. There was just so much that he was saying that in my opinion was completely unrealistic that I was a little surprised when Ashley told him it sounded a lot like what she was looking for. That also might explain why most of the Bachelor/Bachelorette couples don't work. Over the top ideas.

The next day (or however long it is in Bachelorette time) the group date went to a comedy club where Ashley clued the guys in on the fact that they would be roasting her.

William who most everyone really liked after last week took it not so much as a date and a chance to further his relationship with Ashley so much as an audition for "Last Comic Standing". Apparently he didn't get the memo that he was on the Bachelorette. Badum

Moving right along, the guys went up and of course William was last. His jokes fell faster than a Playboy centerfolds top and at one point at the end someone in the audience yelled out "too soon". Cause it would have been better to for him to wait until week seven and then joke that he might have wanted Emily or Chantal more. That would have been better.

After that disaster all William could say for himself is that maybe he should go home; not even an apology and we were all waiting but nothing. He ran away from the party and then sat outside saying how he wished he could have another chance but we never saw him actually go to Ashley and ask for one. What we did see was Bentley using the opportunity to win Ashley over more even as he admitted off camera that he felt the same as Williams joke.

Waking up the next morning Bentley decided that since he didn't get the rose on the group date he would pout like any spoiled brat and go home citing that he missed his daughter too much to stay.

Okay I am probably going to catch some for this but I actually appreciated the way that Bentley left. Sure he didn't give Ashley the closer that she needed and he basically lied or half-truthed his way out the door but he also didn't crush her as much as he could have.

We all know that she has major insecurities and if he had told her that the idea of marrying her was worse than swimming in pee or that he would have been happier if it was Emily cause that was who he wanted he would have destroyed her. After the night that she had had before and then for him to say such a thing, in my opinion would have made it impossible for her to continue on with the show. She would have been second guessing everything that every one of the guys said. There would have been no way that she could open up and trust the way that she should have. Yes he was a complete butt head but at least he left and he didn't take the rest of the season with him. Besides I think that confrontation will be so much better on the men tell all.

Finally we had Jeff. O Jeff *sigh*. There just aren't words.

This week he FINALLY took that silly mask off and what did he get for it? Sent home. Yes, the mask came off and the bags got packed. Not so much in that order but in the end he had to go. I don't think it was completely do to the fact that once the mask came off he was just plain or in Ashley's words "older than she thought" but I do think that he lost some of his appeal without it. I know I for one was like over it by the time it came off.

So another episode is in the bag and we are down to twelve. Next week they are suppose to start their world wind tour to win Ashley's heart. First stop Thailand. See ya next week.

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Where I would normally go through and talk about the dates that happened on this weeks episode I really want to talk about the episode as it would be in real life.

First the highlights. William, who is absolutely adorable, got the first date of the season and was whisked off to Las Vegas for a wedding elopement style date and lets be real. There is no guy that would elope with any woman on a first date and what girl puts that kind of pressure on a guy. Still I will say that I was laughing right off my bed as it happened.

Second was the group date where they stayed in Vegas and got a chance to dance with the Jabbawockez's from "America's Best Dance Crew". As a personal fan of theirs I was excited to see them get the advertisement and more than a little bummed that I didn't know they had their own show in Vegas. Must check it out. The guys were split into two groups and the winning group got to stay and party in Vegas after performing for a sold out audience with the Jabba's while the losing group were flown home.

Lastly there was the second one on one that ended up being a coin toss between JP and Mikey (sorry if I am spelling it wrong). Mikey won and again was flown to Vegas where Ashley let the coin toss decide everything from the wine to if he got the rose and a kiss. It seemed to work in his favor because he won them all and if I was him I would be keeping that coin if for nothing else good luck.

Alright that is about the highlights of the episode and now I can get down to the two topics that I want to talk about: Reality and Producers.

Look we all know that even though the term is "reality tv" that not everything is one hundred percent real. But that isn't what I meant when I said reality. What I'm talking about is everyday, run of the mill, life.

On Ashley's date with William once they got past the wedding that wasn't they went to dinner. Now while many people have gone to dinner in Vegas post, pre or no where near marriage most of them have not had dinner in the middle of the fountains at the Bellagio Hotel. Are you serious? I know that as a television show they have a standard to live up to and that again there is little real in "reality" but come on. How do you follow that up once the show as ended?

This is one of my problems with the Bachelor/Bachelorette. They send people on these amazing around the world dates and then when the camera's stop rolling they expect them to life out normal life when there has been nothing normal about their relationship up to that point. Yes they have to give an air of extravagance but for most people dinner in the Bellagio might be considered extravagant. Especially if they were in a penthouse suite or something to that effect. It just gets to be too much on occasion and I wonder if all the over the top dates don't contribute to the life expectancy of a television romance post cameras.

My next issue that I have an opinion on is the producers and Bentley.

I am sure that when he auditioned, or whatever it is that they do to be on the show, he didn't open up about his obsession with Emily or that he wouldn't be interested if it was Ashley. I would like to hope that if he did then they would never have allowed him on the show. That being said, are they hearing the same crap that I am?

I know that villainy makes for great television. Just look at how Michelle Money was portrayed last season (although I did love her) or others in seasons past but again this is suppose to be "real". Okay so he didn't say half or any of what he is saying now to you back then and yes Ashley has free will and despite the warning that she received she has kept him on; but come on. At some point you either need to shut him up or clue her in. This is suppose to be a show about finding love and whether your track record is 0 and 100 or 12 and 12 (neither are correct for the Bachelor series) you would think that you would want to at least look like you are trying to help that along.

When Jake was all about Rozlyn who "supposedly" had an inappropriate relationship with some one on staff they didn't care then. They pulled her aside and on camera no less and sent her packing. Now they have someone that is not only admitting to having no feelings whatsoever about the Bachelorette on camera and basically talking about playing her and they do nothing but air it. Even Wes from Jillian's season wasn't that bold or stupid as everyone was accusing him of having a girlfriend. He waited until he had been sent home to admit his short comings.

All in all, this episode really bothered me for those two reasons. Next week it looks like Bentley is finally going to come clean and I can't wait to see how that plays out and if it makes for the great television I'm sure the producers are hoping it does.

Stolen kisses, Phantom of the Opera, Drunken stupors, real tears and ladies and gentlemen this was all in the first night. It seems this season of the Bachelorette is gearing up to be as they all promise "the most controversial season yet".:P Ashley H. is back and if you are a Bachelor or Bachelorette watcher then you were glued to the television Monday night.

When we first met Ashley she was a sweet blonde girl looking for love but scared to open up. Now in her very own season she has dyed the hair, changed the attitude and she is ready to take on 25 hot, hot bachelors in the hopes of getting that all important marriage proposal at the end.

Last night started as most new seasons do. Ashley talking about the mistakes she has made while clips of her past relationship with Brad popped in and out. And in true fashion as the music picked up so did she. She went on to talk about how excited she was to be back and how she was more open to love this time and ready for this amazing adventure. Truly if you have seen one Bachelorette then you have seen them all.

Enter Chris Harrison, the limos and the awkward five second meet and greets. I sometimes wish they would just let the men or women arrive and then let the bachelor or bachelorette walk in on the cocktail party already in full swing. Those few minutes of people trying to introduce themselves while standing out are just painful to watch sometimes.

Moving right along, the cocktail party. Yes as always there was drama between a few of the guys. Mainly Jeff, who wore a mask for the WHOLE evening, and the others that found the mask stupid as did most of us. I appreciate the message and the idea behind it (he wants her to get to know the real him without worrying about looks) but really? Come on man. There had to have been a better way to present it.

Then there was Tim who apparently had to get drunk to get up the courage to go on a blind date

with 24 other guys on national television. When said that way I think I know a few guys that would have been three sheets to the wind too. I was pulling for him to turn it around until he fell asleep on the couch out by the pool and then like Ashley I was like dude you have to go. You also have to give the producers credit for that one. I don't think that has ever happen in all their seasons. Way to go! :)

Finally there was Bentley. A gentleman who openly said that he wanted the bachelorette to be Emily or at least he openly said it to the cameras. What he said to Ashley was how he was excited to be there and looking forward to getting to know her. Now a lot of people are upset because she gave him a rose at the end considering a "friend" had told her before hand that he was only coming on to further his career (did Wes not teach men anything? We hate those guys).

However, I can see where she was coming from. You want to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and from what he was saying he sounded sincere. The previews for the season to show a different take on it but heartbreak is what makes for good TV after all.

Overall, I wasn't impressed or not impressed with the men lined up for Ashley. There were a few that I really liked. Ryan P. who does something with solar energy and also got the first impression rose was really cute. I also liked the one that called his mom for her to talk to; that was sweet. A friend of mine is all about JP who did seem almost southern gentlemanly. Truth is that really it has only been one episode and an hour of listening to them. Way to soon to tell.

Either way, my opinion, is that Ashley is going to have her hands full and like every other season before there will be a ridiculous amount of tears spilled and in the end she will claim that she is happier than she has ever been in her life. Can't wait to see it all unfold.

*Pictures courtesy of ABC